Thread:Chaoticcylinder/@comment-2A02:C7D:1A85:F600:A808:1949:651C:C4E0-20200728185356/@comment-36040512-20200729134926

1) Stop calling it a form of lesbianism. Lesbianism is inherently tied to womenhood. If you are attracted to men you are not a lesbian is any way.

2) You say people can choose where or not to identity as this label. However, that does not solve the issue; you're still forcibly identifying people as AFAB or AMAB by being attracted to them or not being attracted to them. Those people aren't getting a choice.

3) So what exactly it is that makes you attracted to trans men but not to cis men? If you met a man who you thought was cis you not be attracted to them, but if you learn they are trans you would become attracted to them? That's the definition of trans fetishization, because you are attracted to them purely because they are trans.

4) I don't mean to psychoanalyze you but if I had to guess what's happening subconsciously: You are likely a lesbian, however when you learn someone is a trans women all you can think about is the fact that they were, at some point, a man, so you loose attraction to them. If you learn that someone is a trans men you think about the fact that they were, at some point, a women. You aren't attracted/not attracted to the person, you're attracted/not attracted to the person who you imagine them as. And just keep in mind, this isn't happening consciously. You're clearly trying to be aware of the trans community and you clearly aren't choosing to be transphobic. However, even trans allies can still have deeping ingrained transphobia. It's just a result of the society we live in.

5) I think it be best if you either identify as a lesbian, and not act on your attraction to trans masc people, or identify as bisexual/polysexual. Bi and poly include attraction to men and non-binary people, but you do not have to be attracted to all men and non-binary people.