Talk:Xenogender/@comment-2601:41:C500:1860:8CA5:429B:FA61:8B48-20200709184817/@comment-36040512-20200709192050

I'm not personally xenogender but I do know a few people who are. I wanted to give an explaination of xenogenders that I found really help with my understanding of them:

If you ask a man to describe his gender he might say his gender is something like "blue, strong, and protective". If you ask a women the same question she might say her gender is "beautiful, powerful, and nurturing". If you didn't know these people's gender this might sound a bit silly, because a gender can't literally have these qualities. However, we are still able to imagine these genders and associate them with these qualities. Since society has told us what men and women are these seem to make sense to us.

Xenogenders attempt to describe genders that aren't masculine or feminine using the same method, except to do so they have to use concepts that typically aren't assosiated with gender. So instead of "blue, strong, and protective" and gender might be "yellow, bright, and calming" just as an example.

The only reason why describing a gender as masculine or feminine "make sense" to us and xenogenders do not is because we have been socalized since birth to recognize masculinity and femininity. If you were to actually stop and try to explain exactly how to describe masculinity or femininity you'd find that you can only describe them through metaphor and abstract qualities, just like how xenogenders are described.