Thread:Chaoticcylinder/@comment-2A02:C7D:1A85:F600:A808:1949:651C:C4E0-20200728185356/@comment-2.223.12.126-20200730162750

3. True

6.  I  think  bisexual  with  a  genital  preference  works (yay, progress!)  but  I  don't  feel  like  that's  something  I  could identify  as  IRL  or  online  because  it  has  sort  of  fetishitic  connotations  which  make  me  (and  possibly  others?) uncomfortable.

Plus  I  feel  as  though  it  would  be  inappropriate  to  use  that  as  an  identifier  in  professional  settings,  and  the  preference  could  also  be  interpreted  as  the  other  way  around  if  that  makes  sense.

At  the  same  time,  identifying  as  bisexual  alone  might  give  cis  men  the  wrong  idea  (not  to  sound  narcissistic!)  and  is  generally  too  open  to  interpretation  for  my  liking.

Is  there  any  possibility  of  making  a  sexual  orientation  based  off  of  this? Or  a  cluster  with  one  for  AFABs  with a  preference  for  AMABs,  AMABs  with  a  preference  for  AFABs  and  AMABs  with  a  preference  for  AMABs)?  Or would  doing  this  be  transphobic  still  and  not  allowed  here- you  said  that  it's  inherently  transphobic  to  base attraction  on  sex  rather  than  gender  but  is  it  still  bad  to  base  it  off  of  these  preferences  instead  if  gender  no longer  becomes  conflated  with  genitals?  Because  I  feel  as  though  I  tried  to  do  so  originally  but  didn't  describe  it  as  a form  of  bisexuality.  I'm  really  determined  to  find  an  identifier  but  I  don't  want  that  to  come  at  the cost  of  a) being  hateful, and/or  b) not  being  accurate.