TW; sex talk, for the sex repulsed people to avoid
I am pro mogai, and i do think smaller microlabels and wilder sexualities/genders should be loved and noticed and validated, but something that makes me uncomfortable about mogai is that a lot of people try to push fetishes into being LGBTQ+
Dont get me wrong, pride flags are fine if youre very sex positive, and people oppress/bully/mock you for your fetish. anyone thats oppressed deserves a pride flag. HOWEVER...
Being LGBTQ+ is having a sexuality/attraction/relationship or gender that isnt accepted in society/understood well in society.
Its very uncomfortable that people with fetishes try to act as though thats LGBTQ+. Yes, they might be oppressed for their fetishes, but its a different kind of oppression.
people with fetishes may be made fun of for their fetishes, HOWEVER they arent murdered and abused for it, at least not as often as LGBTQ+ individuals. and people with fetishes, even if they are sex positive, dont have to be constantly worried as LGBTQ+ individuals do. they dont/cant talk about their fetishes everywhere because 1. thats weird to do round minors/children, or around strangers and 2. because its not relevant to everyday life in public
LGBTQ+ people DO have to be constantly concerned, because relationships/pronouns/gender is talked about so often.
Ladies vs men bathrooms, "do you have a crush?" "do you have a boyfriend?" "do you have a girlfriend?" "boys on the right, girls to the left!" etc
You can be proud of your fetish if youre oppressed for it, but please, keep it in your own community/make a community for it so that LGBTQ+ people dont have to see it if they dont want to...
-Alex