Lets see if I can describe alterous attraction for you. It is an intense pull of emotional closeness to you. The time I felt something that I think is alterous attraction was to my friend. It felt like a sort of super happiness when I was around her and "ohmygosh you're just so amazing" and like "I just wanna spend more time with you and be around you"
Here are some comments I found on the alterous attraction page that helpful ^u^
"To me, alterous is a type of love where you don't care what the label of your relationship is.
If you have a platonic attraction to someone, you want to be their friend. If you have romantic attraction, you want to be their lover. With sexual attraction, you want to be their sexual partner, with sensual attraction, their cuddle buddy. And if the person you're attracted to feels a different way, it can be painful (for example, being in love with someone who'd rather be "just friends" can be heartbreaking).
With alterous attraction, there are multiple of the above that you'd be okay with being called. If they want to be friends, great! And if one day they ask you out on a date, let's go! They want to cuddle, or even have sex? Anything for you! (Note that if you're repulsed by sex, romance, or touch, some of these might not apply to you.)
As long as you get to have a close, trusting relationship with the person you're alterously attracted to, you're happy."
And this reply
"I completely agree with this. A lot of people get confused thinking that having alterous attaction would make you think romance is more special than friendship, but I think it's because it's quite hard to describe what alterous attraction is.
It's something emotionally intimate but it's hard to pin-point what it is exactly because the line is burry. The label doesn't matter though. Even if people understand it or not, it's just as beautiful as any other type of attraction!"
A lot of people agreed with these replies and said they were really accurate.
For me how I feel romantic attraction is "I love you I can imagine us living together, building a life together, dating, getting married, having kids, etc" whereas queerplatonic is "Ur just so darn amazing I wanna cuddle, maybe be roommates, watch movies, talk about books, etc" It doesn't involve the same level of commitment. And alterous attraction is you just love them and want to be around them a lot maybe with some queerplatonic desires.
At least thats what its like for me ^u^
Just know that he really loves you