lately i've been thinking about why i need to be validated on my identity so much and i think i've come to the conclusion that i'm not trans? please help-
lately i've been thinking about why i need to be validated on my identity so much and i think i've come to the conclusion that i'm not trans? please help-
Well we can be gender identity crisis buddies!
How do you feel about that conclusion?
i'm scared because i've been trans for 3+ years and i don't know who i am without my trans identity. plus, i know how my bf would react, and that's also scary.
Um... if you're worried about faking your transness, you probably arent.
Plus, everyone needs validation. Especially those who have dysphoria. I like being validated on my gender identity and having people say that i'm very masculine. It's normal to want validation.
Don't take this as me saying "You definitely are trans" i'm just giving my two cents on it as a trans person who's always worried about faking his identity.
Finding out who you are isn’t supposed to be linear. If you spent three years living with the trans label and found out it’s not for you, then that’s okay. Who you are without being trans isn’t any less than who you are with it. That journey and experiences are still valid parts of you and your story even if they no longer represent who you are. If you’re worried about faking being trans then chances are you aren’t faking, that’s a common experience when questioning. If your boyfriend isn’t comfortable dating someone who’s not trans then that’s okay for him but he should be able to respect your narrative of self-discovery as someone who cares about you.
In my personal experience, I went though the same thing. I thought I was trans for a while, and then eventually when I realized I was using the validation from it as a shield, I took a step back and thought about it for a week. I realized I wasn't trans, and that it's okay to not be trans after thinking you were for a long time.
Hope this helps! <3/p
What do you think?