is there a gender where when you finally find a term for your gender it just???? disappears????????????? like having the best thing you've ever received snatched of your hands by some higher being who is messing with you for their own satisfaction
i was thinking lightninggender but im not sure
edit: if i can't find anything soon i think i'll just coin this.
edit 2: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Ripegender [i didnt coin this]