Post 1
"Hi there, I have just made an account with wikia to specifically ask a few questions and voice a few concerns.
My first question is mostly, why does bi-sexual, bi-romantic etc have 2 or more in the description? that doesn't make sense to me at all.
My concern is centered around the impact that that definition is having on some of my elder LGBTQ+ friends having read that, and feeling a bit invalidated. there is a lot of bisexual erasure and this certainly felt like it to them. We've also been in a debate with someone in the youtube comments about it. It is concerning to me why the latin prefix of bi is being bastardized in such a way that it no longer holds its correct meaning. my younger niece is questioning her sexuality right now (shes 13) and i was explaining to her that when you're bi you have an attraction to two genders (it used to be the dominant evolutionary sexes, not genders. i know there are intersex people and they are valid too im not excluding them here). then she asked me about multiple genders and i said well if you like more than 2 you are poly, if you like all of them without seeing much a difference thats pan, and if you like them all but see a distinction between them thats omni). now, if you suddenly say that bi is two or more, thats really taking away from the validity of having attraction to the well established original meaning of it, and its now overlapping with poly. i'm not upset or angry about this, i would just like an explanation about why this change has been made. a lot of younger people come to this wikia to find info about who they might be if they're questioning and its, in my opinion, becoming too convoluted. but please if there's a valid reason why this has changed i would love to know.
My second question is, do you think that gender identity/expression and personality traits are getting a bit mixed up?
i understand there's some cause and effect there, and a lot of overlap. again not upset about it just curious on your opinion here. I am a trans person who probably fits agenderflux the best of the categories here, and I def appreciate finally figuring out a flag that fits. on the other hand tho my sexuality has been listed as a bad one?? i am sci/cognisexual, and i am not an elitist asshat if you will, lol. i feel like instead of labelling it as inherently not supported, perhaps we could talk about the good people who do exist who are attracted to intellectually inclined people, its just another evolutionary trait i am attracted to in a partner, just like some people prefer to be with someone who is tall etc. its not about IQ, or western education prowess, in fact i really hate the educational system here, i don't find it makes very many people educated in the best ways for them individually. my attraction is literally to someone who has a good grasp on learning no matter their different abilities, or neurodivergence. i guess its an attraction to critical thinking skills. even if its art, music, math, what have you. just because i prefer an intellectually level playing field for my partner, doesnt mean im ablest or classist, i am actually quite poor and would love to see more equality for all. i just know that when a friend of mine rambles on about his astrophysics classes he took for his masters i have mental and physical arousal occur. when i read in the details of the sapiosexual section that its more of a preference than a sexuality, i would have to respectfully disagree with that statement. aren't all sexualities a preference of sorts? seems like some silly semantics to me. sure there may be some rotten people who are making the real folk who feel this way look like jerks, but its not the majority. I'm sure you would agree that there are real pos people in a lot of different tribes regardless, doesn't make the real people who feel that way any less valid, right?
to drive my point home I even worked as a TA for special education and really loved those kiddos and wanted the absolute best for them going foward. there are different categories of love based on greek philosophy, 9 original ones i believe. perhaps we could incorporate these love styles into the wikia? just a thought. it might shed some light to those who are questioning and might really be a great addition to flesh out some of the different sections written here.
Thanks for hearing me out, and again i mean no disrespect at all. Hope to hear back soon!
Linkyn Trevor"
End of Post 1
Post 2
"Hi.
I have come to reflect on my previous post, and after talking to a lot of my fellow lgbt friends about all of this stuff, we have all concurrently come to the conclusion that our community is being over analyzed and labelled to death. There once was a time where no one gave so much a of shit about labels, and just existed for fighting the good fight. Like equal rights. Then it dawned on me. This is a wikia, run by fandom.com, Fandom.com! as in fan fiction!.... so it makes sense to me why all this nonsensical over thinking is being done to spread misinformation about the real lgbt community, who have very real lives not in front of a screen. There's more work to be done out there than nitpick down to the tiniest detail what gender someone is.... gender is not a catch all term for what feels aesthetically pleasing to us anyway, that's personality type. Gender really is a misnomer and a societal construct, when you understand that the physiology of the brain is making interpretive assumptions about our collective experiences. This is to form evolutionary based assumptions on what male and female should be presented and interpreted as. It has changed so much since recorded history.
What I am trying to get at is, all of this stuff posted here seems kind of immature, and not helpful in the grand scheme of things. This info being posted on a fandom wikia doesn't do much to help the initial reaction of "is this a joke?" It's also dangerous spreading misinformation about what BI means (even at the root level of the prefix). Sure language can be fluid and evolve (that's what its supposed to do) but when you change the fundamental meaning behind a very long and well established prefix from latin, you kinda need to make sure its accurate and maybe take a large consensus of opinions on it before it just becomes a definition for something. Who decided that its 2 or more anyway? like who, seriously. I mean that's like saying that any moving vehicle is technically also a bicycle because it has a minimum of two wheels still. Nope, not how that prefix works. Bi-SEXUAL was supposed to be in reference to physical sex characteristics anyway, so we should be using spectrum terminology for intersex folks, not gender. Gender is just the brain interpreting the environment about one's self and out of it. Sex is something that all those crazy genomes, no matter what of the 12+ different variations that can occur naturally, we have and that is from physical evolution itself, out side of your brains interpretation. We developed this interpretation as a means of early survival.
Anyway folks, again I mean no disrespect as I am a masculine bisexual female myself. Just keep in mind there is wisdom to be learned from those of us who have lived through some shite, and have several college degrees.
Take Care,
Linkyn Trevor"
Again, I am really looking forward to learning what you all think.
Thanks for reading.